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Friday, October 31, 2008

what happened when you hate someone?

Salam. Jangan terkejut melihat tajuk yang ditulis di atas. Di sini saya ingin berkongsi sedikit pengalaman saya (sila rujuk tajuk di atas). Sebenarnya tidak susah untuk membenci seseorang dan tidak susah juga untuk menyukai seseorang. Perasaan benci itu akan datang pada kita bila mana sikap seseorang itu tidak disukai dan disenangi oleh kita (menyampah). Mungkin juga atas sebab-sebab yang lain (bergantung pada situasi dan individu). Namun, apa yang anda lakukan bila perasaan benci itu menguasai diri? Well, mungkin ada di kalangan anda yang cuba menjauhkan diri, tidak bercakap selama beberapa hari or selama-lamanya. Namun, tidakkah anda rasa hidup anda sangat tidak teratur apabila anda membenci atau tidak menyukai seseorang? Mungkin ada yang akan menjawab "ye la" dan mungkin juga "tak pun".

Frankly speaking, i have this "hate' feeling. Almost 0ne year i have this feeling with a group of someone. But after that, i got some advise in one situation. "Jika kita pergi mana-mana sure kita akan jumpa atau berhadapan dengan pelbagai ragam manusia yang kita tidak suka. Apa penyelesaiannya? Kita hormati etika atau attitude seseorang itu. Kalau betul2 kita tak suka jangan terikut dengan gaya yang mereka bawa. Jika sikap mereka itu dikhuatiri boleh mendatangkan kemudaratan pada kita, sila2lah jauhkan diri."

Jadi apa yang mahu saya perkatakan di sini, jika anda membenci seseorang, maafkanlah dia. Mungkin dia tak tahu apa yang telah dia lakukan atau mungkin itulah sikapnya-->suka membuat orang benci padanya :p Bila hati kita sudi untuk memaafkan orang lain jiwa kita pun akan menjadi lebih tenang. Setiap kali saya marah pada seseorang saya akan cuba ingatkan diri saya,"siapalaa aku nak marah kat dia?siapalaa aku nak menilai orang lain?aku pun bukannya baik sangat pun" ;) . Seperti kata abang dan kakak2 ku --->tau takpe.

Namun, saya cukup pantang apabila melihat dan mendengar orang lain cuba melemahkan semangat orang lain. Sebagai contoh, "kalau stakat markah assignment sikit macam ni confirm fail la korang..". Ayat ini sangat menyakitkan hati bagi sahabat saya yang mengalami situasi ini. Namun, orang yang mengeluarkan kata-kata tersebut tidak sedar atau mungkin niatnya untuk bergurau. Inilah contoh dimana seseorang yang sangka dirinya pandai bergurau tetapi sebenarnya tidak. Apa penyelesaiannya? Buat dek je dengan orang sebegini. Elakkan sebarang perbualan yang panjang dengan orang sebegini kerana tindakan anda berborak dengannya akan membuatkan anda lebih sakit hati.

Ada juga kisah di mana si A ini terasa hati dengan si B kerana si B tidak bercakap dengannya. Si B pula terasa hati dengan si A kerana si A bersikap pelik dan tidak mahu bercakap dengannya. Masing-masing meluahkan perasaan pada si C. Si C hanya menggelengkan kepala. Kisah ini sebenarnya tidaklah serius tapi berlaku di kalangan kita pada hari ini. Perselisihan faham @ misunderstood ini sering berlaku di kalangan "friendship". Saya ada seorang sahabat yang bercakap ikut mood dan ikut suka dia saja @ laser. Pernah suatu hari saya bertanya sesuatu padanya dan dia membalasnya dengan kata-kata yang sedikit keras (ak tanya baik dia jawab cam nak gaduh ngan ak-->pehal?). Apa yang saya lakukan? Saya bangun dan terus berlalu meninggalkannya. Kenapa saya tidak bertindak menegurnya? Kerana saya tau dengan sikap saya yang panas baran akan memburukkan lagi keadaan. Maka penyelesaiannya saya cuba mententeramkan hati saya yang membara dengan menjauhinya. Seeloknya jika anda berada dalam situasi ini atau ada sahabat anda yang berada dalam situasi ini, biarkan dia bersendirian selama beberapa minit atau paling lama 1 jam.

Walaupun hati kita terluka dengan sikap2 manusia dan insan2 di sekeliling kita jangan pula kita merubah diri kita yang berperasaan (bila terluka means ada perasaan) kepada tidak berperasaan. Kita pula yang menyakiti hati orang lain dan tidak sedar dengan tindakan kita. Sesungguhnya sebagai seorang muslim@muslimah(bagi yang beragama Islam) cuba kita banyakkan membaca al-Quran dan solat2 sunat yang lain@qiam. Itulah langkah yang paling bagus untuk kita lakukan pabila hati kita terluka atau dilukai. Fahami diri anda untuk memahami diri orang lain. Sayangi diri anda untuk menyayangi orang lain. Bantulah diri anda untuk membantu orang lain. Inilah saya seadanya. Mohon kemaafan jika ada kelemahan dan kesilapan sepanjang tulisan ini ditulis dan dibaca oleh anda semua. Wassalam.




TENSION??

SALAM to all my friends, siblings and relatives. :) It has been a while since i post my last Hari Raya wishes. Well, i just submit my Project 1 (thesis) and i feel so relax but not too relax actually. Still got to study for my final exam and my 1st paper is Noise & Vibrations (this Monday). I know some of my friends here, there and somewhere maybe already finish studying or still studying and feel stress. So, for you all who feel so stress or maybe dunno whether he/she might be in stress situation, here i put some information about stress. Enjoy your reading. All the best and best of lucks to all of you and me. :)

Definition

A tension headache is the most common headache, and yet it's not well understood. A tension headache generally produces a diffuse, usually mild to moderate pain over your head. Many people liken the feeling to having a tight band around their head. A tension headache may also cause pain in the back of your neck at the base of your skull.

Although headache pain sometimes can be severe, in most cases it's not the result of an underlying disease. The vast majority of headaches are so-called primary headaches. Besides tension headaches, these include migraines and cluster headaches.

In many cases, there's no clear cause for a tension headache. Fortunately, effective treatments for tension headaches are available. Managing a tension headache is often a balance between fostering healthy habits, finding effective nondrug treatments and using medications appropriately. In addition, a number of preventive, self-care and alternative treatments may help you deal with headache pain.

Symptoms

A tension headache can last from 30 minutes to an entire week. You may experience these headaches occasionally, or nearly all the time. If your headaches occur 15 or more days a month for several months, they're considered chronic. Unfortunately, chronic tension headaches sometimes persist for years.

A tension headache may cause you to experience a dull, achy pain or sensation of tightness in your forehead or at the sides and back of your head. Many people liken the feeling to having a tight band of pressure encircling their heads. In its most extensive form, the pain feels like a hooded cape that drapes down over the shoulders. The headache is usually described as mild to moderately intense. The severity of the pain varies from one person to another, and from one headache to another in the same person. Many people report that the pain starts first thing in the morning or late in the day when work stress or conflict at home is anticipated.

Some people with tension headache experience neck or jaw discomfort. There may also be:

  • Tenderness on your scalp, neck and shoulder muscles
  • Difficulty sleeping (insomnia)
  • Fatigue
  • Irritability
  • Loss of appetite
  • Difficulty concentrating

Unlike some forms of migraine, tension headache usually isn't associated with visual disturbances (blind spots or flashing lights), nausea, vomiting, abdominal pain, weakness or numbness on one side of the body, or slurred speech. While physical activity typically aggravates migraine pain, it doesn't make tension headache pain any worse. A few people with tension headache experience an increased sensitivity to light or sound, but this isn't a common symptom.

Types of headaches

Illustration of where tension, migraine and cluster headaches occur

Different types of headaches cause different types of pain. The pain of tension headaches is usually a dull, squeezing pain that may involve the forehead, scalp, back of the neck and both sides of the head. The majority of migraines occur on one side of the head, but some people with migraines feel pain on both sides of the head. Cluster headaches usually occur on one side of the head, and some people describe the pain as a stabbing sensation in the eye.

Causes

Experts continue to debate the causes and even the name of tension headaches. Over the years, as different theories emerged about the origins of this type of headache, it was known by names such as muscle contraction headache, psychogenic headache, depressive headache, essential headache and ordinary headache.

The exact cause or causes of tension headache are unknown. Until a few years ago, many researchers believed that the pain of tension headache stemmed from muscle contraction in the face, neck and scalp, perhaps as a result of heightened emotions, tension or stress. But many researchers have questioned this idea.

More recent research discredits this theory. Studies using a test called an electromyogram, which records the electric currents generated by muscle activity, haven't detected increased muscle tension in people diagnosed with tension headache. In addition, people with migraine have as much muscle tension as do people with a tension headache, if not more.

As a result, The International Headache Society uses the term "tension-type headache" instead of "tension headache," calling attention to the fact that muscle tension may not be the main cause of this kind of head pain.

Chemical changes


Researchers now believe that tension headache may result from changes among certain brain chemicals — serotonin, endorphins and numerous other chemicals — that help nerves communicate. These are similar to biochemical changes associated with migraine. Although it's not clear why the chemical levels fluctuate, the process is thought to activate pain pathways to the brain and to interfere with the brain's ability to suppress the pain. On one hand, tight muscles in the neck and scalp may contribute to a headache in someone with altered chemical levels. On the other hand, the tight muscles may be a result of these chemical changes.

Because both tension headache and migraine involve similar changes in brain chemicals, some researchers believe that the two types of headache are related. Some experts speculate that migraine may develop from the regular occurrence of tension headache. The distinctive migraine features form as the pain becomes more severe. Other research suggests that mild migraine is in reality a type of tension headache.

Two classifications


Tension headache is classified into two forms: episodic and chronic. These forms distinguish between occasional headaches separated by varying lengths of time between attacks and frequent headaches that occur, in many cases, almost daily.


  • Episodic. Episodic tension headaches occur on fewer than 15 days a month. These headaches are usually brief, lasting a few minutes to a few hours. Episodic tension headaches may cause scalp and neck muscle tenderness in addition to head pain. People with increasingly frequent attacks of the episodic form may be at higher risk of developing the chronic form of the headache over a period of years.
  • Chronic. Chronic tension headaches occur on 15 days a month or more for at least three months. Compared with the episodic form, chronic tension headache is less common, but twice as many women as men have the chronic form. The duration and the severity of episodic and chronic tension headaches are similar, although for many people with the chronic form, pain is daily and almost continuous. Like the episodic form, chronic tension headache can be with or without scalp tenderness.

In some cases, depression and anxiety may cause chronic tension headaches. If you do have a mood disorder, it's critical to treat this condition as well as your headache to achieve the best possible outcome. For example, if you have both depression and tension headache, treatment for your headaches may be less effective if the depression goes undiagnosed and untreated.

Controversy surrounds the issue of whether chronic tension headache is really a separate entity from chronic migraine. Doctors often have trouble distinguishing between the two types of headache. Both disorders are thought to stem from episodic headaches after pain pathways become sensitized, and both involve similar biochemical changes in the brain.


Triggers and aggravators


There are many possible triggers of tension headache. You may have no identifiable or consistent trigger, or have several obvious ones. Potential triggers include:

  • Stress
  • Depression and anxiety
  • Lack of sleep or changes in sleep routine
  • Skipping meals
  • Poor posture
  • Working in awkward positions or holding one position for a long time
  • Lack of physical activity
  • Occasionally, hormonal changes related to menstruation, pregnancy, menopause or hormone use
  • Medications used for other conditions, such as depression or high blood pressure
  • Overuse of headache medication

Half the people with tension headache report that they felt stressed or hungry before their headache began.

Tension headache may be made worse by jaw pain from clenching or grinding teeth (bruxism) or by head trauma, such as a blow to the head or whiplash injury. People with stiff joints and muscles due to arthritis of the neck or inflammation of the shoulder joints may develop tension headache.

Headaches in children


Chronic tension headaches in children are similar to headaches in adults and are often caused by stress, anxiety or depression. Although adults may not always realize it, children can experience tremendous stress — ranging from peer pressure and unreasonable parental expectations to difficulty in school and physical or sexual abuse. And all children, even very young ones, can experience depression.

Risk factors

Tension headache probably accounts for a majority of all primary headaches. And it's more common in women than in men. Almost 90 percent of women and about 70 percent of men experience tension headaches during their lifetimes. Tension headache is most prevalent in people between the ages of 20 and 50. The majority of people who get migraines also get tension-type pain.

When to seek medical advice

Pain is often one of your body's ways of signaling illness. But headache pain, even when it's severe, usually isn't the result of an underlying disease. Occasionally, however, headaches may indicate a serious medical condition, such as a brain tumor or rupture of a weakened blood vessel (aneurysm). Always be sure to tell your doctor about any headache that concerns you. Even if you have a history of headaches, see your doctor if the pattern changes or your headaches suddenly feel different.

If tension headache disrupts your life, don't hesitate to talk to your doctor. The condition is a biological disorder for which there's effective treatment. Many people can manage their headaches by working with their doctors to develop a comprehensive, individualized treatment plan that involves lifestyle changes, medication and complementary therapies.

In addition, see your doctor or go to the emergency room immediately if you have any of these warning signs and symptoms:

  • Abrupt, severe headache, often like a thunderclap
  • Headache with a fever, stiff neck, rash, mental confusion, seizures, double vision, weakness, numbness or speaking difficulties
  • Headache after a head injury, especially if it gets worse
  • Chronic, progressive headache that is precipitated by coughing, exertion, straining or a sudden movement
  • Onset of new headache pain after age 50

Call your doctor if your child has head pain that's severe or that causes him or her to miss school or other activities. A child who's too young to tell you what's wrong may cry and hold his or her head to indicate severe pain.

Prevention

Although medications can provide temporary relief, lifestyle changes are ultimately the best way to combat tension headaches. Make sure you're following a regular sleep schedule and eating balanced meals. In addition, the following tips may help:

  • Exercise regularly. Regular aerobic exercise, such as walking, swimming or biking, can help reduce the frequency and intensity of headaches. Exercise relieves stress, relaxes your muscles and increases the levels of one of your body's natural stress relievers, beta-endorphin. Yoga, massage, stretching and posture classes also can help prevent tension headaches. If you already have a headache, exercise can help relieve the pain. In some cases, however, exercise may bring on a headache, so check with your doctor before starting any exercise program. Your doctor may recommend that you work with a physical therapist to learn exercise techniques that may specifically benefit people with chronic tension headaches.
  • Manage stress. In addition to regular exercise, techniques such as biofeedback training and relaxation therapy can help reduce stress. Biofeedback teaches you to control certain body responses that help reduce pain. During a biofeedback session, you're connected to devices that monitor and give you feedback on body functions such as muscle tension, heart rate and blood pressure. You then learn how to reduce muscle tension and slow your heart rate and breathing yourself. The goal of biofeedback is to help you enter a relaxed state so that you can better cope with your pain. Ask your doctor whether such a program might help you.

    Cognitive behavior therapy also may help you learn to manage stress and reduce the frequency and severity of your headaches. During this type of talk therapy, a counselor helps you learn ways to view and cope with life events more positively.

    Other relaxation techniques include deep breathing, yoga, meditation and progressive muscle relaxation, which is accomplished by tensing one muscle at a time, and then completely releasing the tension, until every muscle in your body is relaxed. You can learn relaxation techniques in special classes or at home using books or tapes. Many of them may also be helpful for children.

Preventive medications


Certain medications taken at regular intervals may reduce the frequency and severity of attacks. Your doctor may prescribe these if you have more than two headaches a week or have tension headaches that aren't relieved by acute medication and nondrug therapy. Your doctor also may recommend preventive medication if your headache lasts longer than three to four hours, if severe pain becomes disabling or causes you to overuse acute medication, or if you can't take acute medication because of other medical conditions.

Doctors often prescribe antidepressants to prevent tension headache, especially the chronic form. These drugs aren't painkillers. Rather, they work to stabilize the levels of brain chemicals such as serotonin, which may be involved in the development of a headache. You don't have to have depression in order to use these drugs.

Preventive medications may include:

  • Tricyclic antidepressants. Tricyclic antidepressants, including amitriptyline and nortriptyline (Pamelor), are the most commonly used medications to prevent tension headache. They're effective against both the episodic and chronic forms. Side effects of these medications may include weight gain, drowsiness, dry mouth, blurred vision and constipation. Older adults also may experience confusion or faintness when taking tricyclic antidepressants.
  • Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). Antidepressants such as paroxetine (Paxil), venlafaxine (Effexor) and fluoxetine (Prozac, Sarafem) produce fewer side effects than do the tricyclic antidepressants but generally are less reliable in preventing headaches. Further studies are needed to demonstrate their effectiveness.
  • NSAIDs. Chronic tension headache may be effectively managed with NSAIDs such as ibuprofen (Advil, Motrin IB, others) and ketoprofen (Orudis). In these circumstances, you take the medication daily.
  • Other medications. Other medications that may prevent tension headache include anticonvulsants such as divalproex (Depakote) and muscle relaxants such as tizanidine (Zanaflex). If you experience migraine-like symptoms, your doctor may prescribe a medication commonly used to treat migraines, such as beta blockers or calcium channel blockers.

Preventive medications may require several weeks to build up in your nervous system before they take effect. So don't get frustrated if you haven't seen improvements shortly after you begin taking the drug — it may take a couple of months or longer. You may need a combination of different medications for maximum effectiveness. Also be aware that overusing caffeine or painkillers for acute relief may reduce the effect of a preventive drug.

To obtain the greatest benefit from preventive medication, keep your use of acute pain relievers to a minimum. Your doctor will monitor your treatment to see how the preventive medication is working. If your headaches are under control, your dose of medication may be reduced gradually over time.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Salam Hari Raya Aidilfitri

Salam Hari Raya Aidilfitri buat semua yang mengenali diri ini. Mungkin sedikit terlewat tetapi tidak salah rasanya kerana kita masih lagi berada di bulan Syawal. Aidilfitri tahun ini sememangnya bermakna bagi diri saya, bukan sahaja dapat balik beraya di Kelantan tetapi kesemua 5 beradik dapat bersama-sama merayakan Aidilfitri kali ini. Namun sedikit terkilan dan sedih kerana kak Fae (my lovely sis in law) terpaksa menyambut hari raya seorang diri di Manchester(sabaw ek k'Fae) :) Selamat Hari Raya AidilFitri sekali lagi saya ucapkan dan mohon maaf jika ada salah dan silap. Mohon maaf jua jika ada kekurangan dalam blog saya yang teramatlah simple ini. Terima kasih kerana masih lagi setia mengunjungi blog saya. InsyaAllah jika ada kelapangan, saya akan upgrade kan lagi blog saya ini. Salam.